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I always have been. I also live alone. Because of the pandemic, I have not stepped foot in a restaurant or even a grocery store for nearly a year. Apparently, I am supposed to be suffering. I don't know who wants to hear this, but being single during this pandemic has been downright dreadful. I'm not taking away from the seriousness of the pandemic.
Please take it seriously, but by God has it been hard when you simply don't have anyone to share time with. I fully acknowledge that for some single people, the pandemic has been a miserable experience as it also has for many couples and families. But I am not one of them.
Sure, I miss meeting my friends at restaurants and movie theaters and meandering through crowded farmers markets, and I would love to go get my own damned groceries. I have also lost a substantial chunk of income. But in other ways, I am doing fine, and nothing about the pandemic, not even after all this time, has made me yearn to be coupled or to even live with other humans. Single life is our most authentic, meaningful and fulfilling life. We know we are defying the relentlessly touted cultural script that insists that what adults want, more than just about anything else, is to have a romantic partner at the center of their lives.
Our comfort with our single lives helps explain why we are surviving and even thriving during the pandemic. To dive in deeper, I posted a request on my website and at my Community of Single People Facebook group asking people who identify as single at heart to tell me their life stories, for possible publication.
Before the pandemic, 42 people had done so. Then, nearly a year into the pandemic, I asked 17 of those volunteers to tell me about their experiences during lockdown.
Fifteen responded. Like me, many people who are single at heart live alone. It has become nearly a truism that humans are social animals, yet here we are, single and living alone. And contented. But are we really Lonely girl wants single adults We like it that way. But the more profound meaning, alone in the world, describes very few of us. Most of us have meaningful relationships with friends or relatives and we have nurtured them during the pandemic. Scholars of solitude such as Thuy-vy Nguyen have found that having an attitude of happy anticipation toward alone time, instead of a feeling of dread, makes a tremendous difference in how solitude is experienced.
They ruminate. They restlessly scroll social media. For people such as the single at heart who enjoy their time alone, the experience is entirely different. We are more relaxed and less stressed when alone. On our own, we feel more like ourselves. Some of us see this alone time as an opportunity to pursue the passions we have been wishing we could indulge or to rede our lives in ways that make the most of what the pandemic has to offer.
Solitude, respondent David P. During the pandemic, his income was decimated. That has been challenging. With no work, no school and no one else in the house, he can devote himself to projects that have long been on his list. He is producing a new film documenting his 45 years of travels, adventures and vision quests, complete with a full symphonic score.
He is also focusing on his health. He has lost weight and is experiencing less pain than he has in years. A London-based business lead for a digital company, she has a busy, exciting life. When she was 34, she spent the year traveling the world on her own.
The pandemic presented a new reality. The day-to-day lives of many of the people who told me their stories have a comfortable continuity with the before times. Because they cherished their solitude before the pandemic, they had already cultivated the kinds of interests that have turned out to be pandemic-proof. Andrea Pitio, 30, an administrative assistant at the Metropolitan Museum of Art in New York City, has enjoyed reading, meditating, writing, running and strength training, both before and during the pandemic.
Perhaps because we greatly value our solitude, some of us who are single at heart have attended lovingly to our homes. Many other single people jumped into the conversation to share their own tales of romantic woe. But being single at heart means not feeling troubled by the difficulties of finding a date or a mate; we are simply not interested in putting a romantic partner at the center of our lives.
Many of us treasure our relationships with friends and relatives and have found pandemic-friendly ways to sustain those bonds. Joan DelFattore, 74, is a professor emerita at the University of Delaware who writes about living single in a couples-oriented culture.
Before the pandemic, she used to spend weekends in Manhattan, New York, where she met friends for meals, plays, concerts and book groups. Now they connect in other ways, such as gathering on Zoom to watch streaming productions from the Met.
Elyakim Kislev showed that in his analyses of a multiyear study of nearly 6, German adults who did not have a romantic partner. Over time, the single people who became more and more committed to being single also valued their friends more. And correspondingly, the single people who valued their friends more also became more committed to being single. It was a virtuous cycle. The most important question I asked during my coronavirus singles survey was whether, after nearly a year of pandemic life, they still believe single life is their best life.
After months of social distancing, masks, financial distress, canceled Lonely girl wants single adults and disruptions, many people not surprisingly told me they are eager to get back to the before times. But no one said they had changed their minds about wanting conventional romantic coupledom instead.
Most feel reaffirmed, and some feel even more secure than before, in their single lives. For some people, living single is a lifestyle. Single is who we really are. Find her at www. IE 11 is not supported. For an optimal experience visit our site on another browser. Mavericks with Ari Melber. Share this —. Follow think. Fewer people are getting married. May 17, Opinion Group chats are like fight club. Heidi Cruz found this out the hard way. Opinion Single? Good For You! Marriage Is Overrated. Please submit a letter to the editor.
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